I was recently having a conversation with a girlfriend of mine and we were discussing various topics and up came the topic of “eloping” and we started to talk about how we felt about it.
So, I thought I’d open up the discussion here and share my thoughts on the matter! Let me start off by saying that however a couple chooses to get married is 1000000% THEIR decision and whatever that decision is, is 100000% the RIGHT decision. I wrote a lot about my experience planning my own wedding and at the heart of any and all advice I’ll ever give about wedding planning is this – do what is right for you and don’t worry about ANYTHING else. You should plan and marry your person in whatever way you want, without anyone else’s say or opinion! So before I tell you all how much a loathe hearing about an elopement, I’m also sure they’re beautiful and am not intending to throw any shade on anyone who’s done it. I just thought it was an interesting discussion I had and wanted to share it here.
So yup, I said it- I loathe hearing about elopements. It honestly just makes me sad more than anything. To me, getting married isn’t just about you (the planning and decisions should 100000% be about you), but the fact that you get to throw this huge party to celebrate love with everyone you love the most in the world??? Like that’s about them as much as it is about you. I just think you’re only given a handful of moments where you get to really throw a huge celebration and getting married and having a wedding is one of the MAIN ones!
It was such a special opportunity for me to plan our wedding and to have both our families and friends together under one roof, sharing a meal together in the same venue. I mean, when else are you going to get to do that? I do also think it is worth the wait- if you have to wait to make it happen.
Eloping to me is just another vacation , maybe just with prettier pictures? Like you can travel and go anywhere with your loved one at any time, why does that have to take the place of a wedding?
And like I said, it just makes me sad for the families and friends of those who choose to elope. I just know my parents would have been so hurt had I done that sort of thing, and I could not imagine marrying the love of my life without my parents and my sister by my side. I hope that doesn’t offend anyone or stir up any controversy LOL.
Again, just sharing my personal thoughts on the matter. At the end of the day, I fully support marrying your soulmate in whatever way you see fit! Because at the end of the day, that’s all that matters!
Well, what are your thoughts? Agree? Disagree?