Getting out of your comfort zone.

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I’ve said it before, and I’ll continue to say it for the rest of my life, Joey and I are pure homebodies. We literally cannot wait for a weekend where it’s just us hanging out at home, maybe going out for a bike ride or to see a movie, and then rushing back home again. We’ve never been the kind of people who go out drinking, clubbing, partying, etc. And not that there’s anything wrong with that at all, in fact that’s kind of a big reason that I’m writing this post now- to explain why I believe we’re homebodies and then hopefully to get some feedback about the type of lifestyles you all lead and if you prefer nights out on the town vs nights in.

We recently went out for my girlfriend’s birthday and spent the night out at a brewery playing games and just socializing. Now for one thing, hanging out a brewery is totally NOT our thing, however, I will do the shebang for someone I love and care about. So, when I heard she wanted to hangout at a brewery, without hesitation I was already in. Now Joey and I aren’t big drinkers either, and I for one loathe the taste of beer; so yea- going to a brewery with a bunch of people I didn’t know, who would all be drinking gave me some anxiety, not going to lie.  But by the end of the evening, we actually met a couple that we just completely clicked with, ended up exchanging numbers with, and then the very next day went to Disneyland with them for dinner and to hit a couple rides!

I started thinking about it, and wondering why we don’t like going out, especially after we’d met such a great couple who will no doubt become friends, thanks to the very fact that we did go out and got out of our “comfort zone.”

Here’s basically some things I came up with as to why people (Joey and I) prefer to be “homebodies” so let me know if you can relate!

  1. You’ve already found your soulmate. You met your match and just running around till the wee hours of the morning just isn’t appealing to you anymore. Most of my girlfriends who are living said life, happen to be single. So naturally, that’s immediately where my mind went. Maybe once you already have the one, that desire or “chase” to go out just dissipates with time?
  2. You’re shy and/or an introvert.  This is totally me and I always surprise myself with  how much I  actually start talking to people once they start asking me questions. I could never lead or open a conversation with a complete stranger; but hey, asking the same question they asked you seems to be working for me? A big reason why we don’t go out to begin with is because of the fact that I am shy. I’m not going to walk into a room and just demand attention. I don’t want it. I’m a creature of habit and that means hanging out with people I already have friendships with and avoiding anything that requires extra energy from me, i.e.- maaayyybbbeee pretending to care about some complete strangers day job -__-
  3. You’re getting older and the same ol’ scene just isn’t as appealing. Maybe you’re burnt out and sick of all the effort. I can confess I do feel like I have to be “on it” when I’m around people  I don’t know. For whatever reason I’m 10000X more afraid of sounding stupid or offending people whom I’ve just met.
  4. Maybe you just like you’re routine. Joey and I don’t necessarily have a “routine” per se,  but we do really love just being around each other and kind of doing what we love to do and being on our own schedule. Being out with people requires planning, timing, and scheduling and that makes things so much harder than it needs to be (the more people, the greater the struggle!)
  5. Maybe dietary restrictions prevent you from going out. I’m not going to lie, most of the time the last thing I want to do- unless it’s sushi or mexican food- is go out to eat. I actually do like eating in and making food. I always feel better and healthier, thats for sure!
  6. You have no one to go out with. My sister has had this problem before. She’s dying to go out but none of her girlfriends want too. Unless you’re super confident, more props to ya! chances are, you’re not going to go out by yourself. I consider myself a pretty confident person and I would absolutely never go out alone! But that may also be because I’m absolutely terrified of getting kidnapped. (Some would say that’s an unrealistic fear, some would say it’s over cautious, but seriously, it’s like a phobia of mine).

I’ve come to the conclusion that while we are complete homebodies, going out every once in a while is a good idea and getting out of your comfort zone, in any form of the term, is a good thing!

Anyone else agree out there? Are you a homebody or do you love the night life?




  1. Awww. That’s so sweet- you just wrote a post all about me! Haha!!

    Fella and I are total homebodies. He’s extremely shy and I can be too at times, but I just don’t like socializing with people I don’t know. Neither one of us have many friends either, but we prefer it that way; less expectation put on us. And the friends we do have either live far, far away or have kids that keep them busy, so the little lime we get to spend with them is that much more precious.

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  2. I am definitely a homebody! My boyfriend and I never go out with other people really & when we go out together, I’m just itching to get back to our home the whole time.
    1, 3, & 4 are probably my main reasons! & don’t worry, I fear being kidnapped when I’m alone too! It’s definitely something to worry about, it happens way too much!

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  3. My husband and I are exactly the same way! We are such homebodies and we literally never go out with anyone else. When we happen to hang out with someone from his work or something, I’m always anxious, lol. I’m definitely an introvert! Also, I think meeting your soulmate already has a lot to do with just not being interested in going out. 😉 Great post! I don’t think I’ve ever related to something so much, haha.

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