These week we celebrated my baby sister’s birthday and with that, I thought I’d share a post discussing some of the stereotypes thrown around when it comes to siblings. When I was reading more and more about the topic, I actually learned some things about personality traits and about your “birth order” that are pretty interesting too, so lets get to it! (Before we begin, if you don’t already know, I should let you know that I am the middle child in a family of 3 girls).
- The oldest is the smartest, the youngest gets it easier, the middle child feels left out: SO, lets just start off with this banger. If either of my sisters are reading this, I think they’ll have to agree with me. I don’t believe the oldest is the smartest (I think I am, lol),just kidding. I believe we are all equally smart and have strengths and weaknesses in different areas (like everyone does). I could ace a test I’ve studied for all week, but could I cook up a dinner from scratch the way my oldest sister could? Do I have the street smarts that my younger sister naturally has? Not a chance. We’ve all had different life experiences that have contributed to our “smarts.” Being the middle child, honestly speaking, I’ve never once felt left out. Quite frankly, I feel like I was raised as if I was a little princess. (Thanks mom & dad 🙂 ) That thing about the younger sister getting it the easiest though, HELL TO THE YES. At least for our little family, 100000% TRUE. And Amilee, you cannot even deny that!
- Sibling rivalry, the moment you’re not the only one, there is a competition for attention: I think when we were younger, my younger sister and I definitely fought and screamed and cried ALOT. I don’t always know if this was because we were competing for attention, but I’m sure some of it was. I guess I’d really have to ask my parents if we behaved a certain way when one of us was getting more attention than the other. From my point of view, at least looking back now, I think we were raised very closely so that we didn’t necessarily feel in competition with each other, but rather, had a feeling of accomplishment no matter which of us was “succeeding.”
- First borns are pushed to perform & tend to be low risk takers, whereas second borns are more flexible: While there are situations where this may not be entirely true, I think this is pretty true for my younger sister and I. I hate anything remotely close to “taking a risk” and am very calculated and planned with everything I do. Amilee, on the other hand, is very “go with the flow” with every aspect of her life. Tomorrow is Easter, for example, and I’ve had an outfit picked out for a week. Amilee still doesn’t know what she’s going to wear.
- A second born has a lot more friends than a first born and will typically reach outside the family and create their own circles: This is an interesting one. I do agree, Amilee does have a greater reach of friends than I do. But we also have a lot of the same friends because we’ve been so close our entire lives. I would say I’ve formed more deeper, longer lasting friendships than she has (though she still does have some), but she’s much more sociable than I am and can become friends with anyone, wherever she is. I on the other hand, am much more private and shy.
- The first born is the more adult like of the bunch: For us, absolutely. Again, I’m a big planner and organizer. Amilee is much more spontaneous. So maybe this is because of our birth order?
- The middle child is the social butterfly of the family. Couldn’t be more far off for us. Like I said earlier, I literally have social anxiety and hate talking to people I don’t know. My sisters however, are very social and can strike up a conversation with nearly anyone.
Well, what do you think? Are there any truths to these stereotypes for you guys? Let me know in the comments! & Happy Easter!!!