What is it about the holiday get togethers that basically give everyone a pass to ask whatever they want? Not that it’s a bad thing or anything, but it is kinda funny to me that it seems to be the time of year where anyone feels like they can ask anything, like things that people wouldn’t normally feel comfortable asking on a regular basis. Like in all the holiday movies where the girl brings a boyfriend (or vice versa) home for Christmas and maybe they aren’t that serious at all but somewhere during dinner, the parents assume the two are getting married and/or pregnant? Kinda like that. It seems like people for whatever reason feel more comfortable to say just anything? Idk, it makes me laugh.

For me, this year I got hit with the same question repeatedly LOL. And not just from family, but yes- from all the family lol, but from co-workers, acquaintances from my daughter’s school at the school winter gala, from patients at work. All across the board.

So, are you having more kids?

When is baby #3 coming?

Do you want anymore kids?

I figured this was a good place to give everyone a universal answer if you by chance missed my scoffing from across the room at any given event this holiday season or if you’ve been curious as well. If you ask my husband, he’d like to think we’re having a hundred kids and would likely smile as he said it. But in reality, the answer is a hard NO. I am not having more kids lol. And nothing against anyone who has 3+ kids (Carissa, Careese- girls, you’re killing it and you know it), but that three child life is definitely not for me. Prior to getting married, I always knew I wanted to have kids and be a mother some day, and I always knew I wanted exactly two children. And being so very Type A (proud of it), I tend to stick to the plan lol.

In my opinion, I feel like you just know in your bones what is right for you, when it comes to just about anything. But especially when it comes to having babies, I feel like you have to know in your soul what/how many children you want. And for me, I have never once thought about having 3 children and honestly, not to be harsh or anything- but even thinking about it now makes me want to vomit LOL. I like balance, I like stability, and I like the idea of being able to maintain my lifestyle without feeling like I’m falling short on some aspect of it, and for me, two children is the perfect number for me to feel like a rockstar mom and also just a rockstar human being outside of being a mom. I feel very fulfilled and happy with my life and I love feeling like I can do it all- work full time, be a mother of 2, maintain a social calendar, etc. Not that you can’t also do those things with more than two children, but just for me- I could not picture my life being any different- everything for me feels complete and just whole. I don’t know if that makes sense, but maybe if you don’t feel that peace and that sense of wholeness, and you are contemplating having a 3rd or 4th baby, maybe that means that you’re meant to have another baby? Not sure, but all I can tell you is thats how I feel- just like our family is complete and whole.

So there it is, not that I feel like any woman should have to give an explanation as to why you are or are not having kids, but thought I’d sum it up here. Also, I happen to be a middle child so I feel like I have some ground to stand on while discussing this topic lol.

A lot of people also mention to me- “well you got the boy and the girl, what more could you want?” And yes, while that is true and while I am loving being both a girl mom and a boy mom, had Jaxson been a girl, it would not have changed a thing, I still would not have been going for baby #3 lol.

What are you thoughts on the matter? Any opinions you’d like to share?

Maybe some day soon, I can get Carissa back on the blog to discuss how she survives with three little ones, because damn, that woman is a pro.

Happy Tuesday everyone!